Yes, Valentine’s Day has come and gone, leaving behind a trail of chocolate wrappers, conversation hearts, rose petals, and maybe a few lingering emotions too — some sweet, some a bit more…well…bittersweet. For those of us navigating the tricky waters of grief, this holiday can be a double-edged sword, reminding us of both the love we’ve cherished and the love we’ve lost.
Love and grief often tango together, especially around days that spotlight relationships and traditions. Valentine’s Day, with its freaking heart-shaped everything, can feel like a white-hot spotlight on what was and what could have been. It’s like your heart can’t decide whether to burst or ache with love. …and, that’s okay…it’s all part of the process.
So, how do we deal with this emotional hangover? [IDK about you but I’ve found the before-math and after-math of an event can often be more exhausting than the event itself.] So, I suggest you give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you’re feeling – right here, right now. Whether you’re laughing at a silly memory or crying from a ‘grief burst’…it’s all valid.
Here are a few other tricks I’ve found to be helpful – in case you’re looking:
Write it Down:
Grab a journal {or even a scrap of paper} and jot down anything and everything that pops into your beautiful brain…just get it on the page! Want a starting point? What are three things that made you smile or made you feel grateful for today? And, if you’re feeling really spicy, write down three things you’re grateful for AND three things that made you smile! It might be something as simple as a warm cup of coffee or a kind word from a friend. These little moments can be small but powerful reminders that joy still exists.
Strengthen Your Relationships Amidst the Grief:
Grief can put a strain on relationships, but it can also deepen them. It’s important to communicate with those around you. Let them know what you need—whether it’s space, a listening ear, or even just a distraction. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help. Your loved ones might not know exactly what to say or do, but they’re there for you, ready to support in any way they can (they need guidance too – that’s where asking to help and telling them what you need comes in).
Continued Support and Community:
You’re not alone on this journey. Community and support systems are invaluable, especially when you’re feeling the weight of grief. Chat with your friend and family. Attend a support group. And don’t forget about Sharing Solace. We’ve built an entire community where you can connect with others who understand what you’re going through. Use our forums and check out our events, or dive into our PROPS system… We’re here to walk this path with you.
As we move towards spring, embrace the journey of hope and healing. Find solace in the love that remains and the memories that bring warmth to your heart. And remember, we’re all in this together. Share your experiences, connect with others, and let’s continue to support one another. After all, love is the thread that weaves us all together, even in the face of loss. Above all, I hope you can always ‘Remember. You’re not alone.’
